I’ve noticed a pattern with my relationships. They seem to last 2 1/2 years before I decide that it isn’t right for me and move on. This leaves the women heartbroken and I feel unmoved and unaffected by the whole thing. Am I incapable of actually loving someone or am I just making excuses to keep from making a serious commitment?
–Unloveable
Every relationship has its breaking point. No. That’s not true. Every person has his/her breaking point. For me, that comes at about 8 months. If I’ve been with you for eight months, and I like you/love you/care for you greatly, the likelihood of me breaking up with you gets slim. Although, sometimes I know I want out at eight months and stick it out until ten or twelve and then I become really cold and unfeeling about the whole mess. I simply walk away at that point.
What I am trying to say, is that 2.5 years might be your breaking point. It takes you that long to really look at the relationship objectively and decide it’s not for you. It is better that you walk away and break hearts than stay and be miserable. They’ll notice you’re miserable. Trust me.
You aren’t inacapable of love. You just haven’t found the person that makes you go “HOLY SHIT. I can love her forever, not matter what!” As long as you aren’t avoiding commmitment, it’s okay to avoid people. If you walk away from a person, because you’re afraid of what you might possibly be missing elsewhere, then you’re a moron. But if you are legimately bored and unable to muster up a shit, then get the fuck out. They’ll get over it with time. And if they don’t, well, that’s really a them issue. Harsh, but true.
Dear Ask Adri, I saw in your advice collumn that some gay men are scared of boobs. Does that mean that some lesbians are scared of balls? Thanks.
–Balls and Boobs Dude
I took this one to the streets. I interviewed about twenty lesbians, asking them “how do you feel about balls.” Most of them said that they thought they were stupid. Penisies seemed useless, swordlike, and violent. Balls are just plain funny. And wrinkly. Hey, I like balls. But apparently Lesbians just think they’re a big joke.
