Dear Ask Adri-
I do not orgasm from vaginal penetration. Only through clitoral stimulation. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to make this happen? My boyfriend gets really upset if I don’t cum during sex, and I refuse to fake it to make him happy. Your advice?
-Not Faking
Well, Not Faking, there’s nothing wrong with you. Some women never achieve vaginal orgasm. In fact, most women that achieve vaginal orgasm, do so in combination with clitoral stimulation. Some scientists argue that the clitoris extends into the vaginal cavity, so a vaginal orgams is actually also a clitoral orgasm. The female orgasm is a very interesting thing, and is not something to be trifled with. Tell your boyfriend that if he wants you come come during sex, you’re going to have to incorporate some “clitoral stimulation” into the act. You shouldn’t have to fake it (good for you!). Just explain that if he wants to come so bad, he’s going to have to learn to multi-task. Or help yourself! But don’t think that there’s anything wrong with you. Other things you can do are to experiment with a vibrator or dildo inside you. That’s right, inside you, and see if after enough, er, poking around, you’re able to find the g-spot or at least a more sensitive point you can use. Play with angles and positions. I know that certain maneuvers work wonders within for me. Most importantly, make your lover aware that he’s putting weird pressure on you to achieve something that may be impossible. You can make it an activity to share, or you can do it alone and in the comfort of your bed or bathtub. Oooh. That sounds like fun.
